I saw that the recipient of the funds, Breast Cancer Research Foundation, returned the donation with an email to the group responsible for these antics. Touche to BCRF for taking a step toward letting people know what is okay and what isn't.
Because I made myself a promise as October approached that I would not be divisive, that I would attempt to use any opportunity as a chance to listen and to be heard, and because I was up too late (which is going to buy me time in jail via the #BedPolice, aka Dr. Deanna Attai), I saw this cross my newsfeed. And, I left a comment.
I've since deleted the comment, foolishly without saving it. I'll try to recall the wording:
Can we open up a dialogue? I am a breast cancer patient and my mom is a two time breast cancer patient whose disease has now spread to a bone. Haters? No. We are just people living with a disease that has left us scarred, with no sensation. Things like this are hurtful and serve as reminders.....
I forgot how I ended the thing... I know that was the crux of the message. I know I included something about sexualizing a disease that is anything but sexy but since I can't recall the exact wording I used, I'm going to refrain from elaborating. It was late, I have chemobrain. I just know that the wording was carefully chosen to truly and hopefully open up a dialogue. Because this is how things change. One person at the time, one thing at the time.
I saw a few comments last night in response to my remarks, mostly positive and then realized, "What the hell are you doing?" This can very quickly turn into a commotion and I do not want to be in the middle of THAT commotion. Thus, the comment was deleted.
Apparently, however, comments were directed at me. They were emailed to me. I suppose my You Tube settings need to be adjusted. Some of what was in my email is below. My offer to open a dialogue with Jason, Jesse and Kong still stands. I will be more than happy to hear them out if they will afford me the same opportunity.
Guys, if you happen to see this, we aren't haters. We are simply trying to stop making breast cancer into the punch line of a joke. It's a disease, it's horrible and can you think of any other disease where such antics are acceptable methods of fund raising or "supporting the cause." Why is this okay? I'd like to understand the thought process but only if those who continue to perpetrate this nonsense are willing to listen to the other side.
Here are some of the comments... in the order in which they were received, minus the names of the parties who left them:
Note: This is all from the same person.....
Finally someone with a valid point. Thanks for saving us from the "us-vs-the-men" feminists here that seem to hate all male existence on earth, animals included.
I do agree with you to some extent. Motor-boating, in particular, isn't a very sympathetic act towards those suffering from breast cancer. A better video would have been one that instructs the viewers of what the cancer is, how to detect it early, and why Simple Pickup chose to donate their money.
My take from the video and the message it's supposed to convey
- it's possible to "motor-boat" random girls whom you don't personally know if you are confident
- some girls seems to enjoy the act, too. The girls who were "motor-boated" were smiling and appeared to have a great time.
- we, as men, should appreciate the breasts of women. We should show this appreciation by contributing to a charity that helps fight a disease concerning this organ.
I'm not saying I 100% agree with all of what this video preaches, but it's made with a good intention.
My opinion is that Simple Pickup doesn't intend to harm women, harass them, rape them, or make the ones with breast disease feel hurt. But their videos can easily be misunderstood.
That is the end of that one commenter.
Thank you for your reaction on the 2nd Simple Pick-up channel.
I hope you woke them up because the video is gone on their main channel. Via history it says private.
Dear AnneMarie, I wish you all the best in life.
With respect, and greetings from Amsterdam-NL
your an idiot
THEY WERE TRYING TO HELP, WAS THAT NOT CLEAR ENOUGH??
Yeah, using the pretense of "giving to charity" to get chicks to allow you to feel them up is pretty low.
I have nothing to say about the comments. I'm just sharing to provide some insight into the way people think. Although, I do particularly love those who respond to reasonable statements but resorting to immediate name calling or YELLING!!!!
Please note, these are only the comments that were written directly to me in response to my comment. Gotta work on that impulsivity stuff. Or perhaps, I need to heed the good doctor and get to bed at the appointed time. Come to think of it, I'm reminded of the advice of a friend's mother from many years ago, "Nothing good EVER HAPPENS on a street corner. And NOTHING good every happens after midnight." I guess this is what she meant by the second half of that statement.
The story about the return of the donation can be found here.
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